Counselling can seem like a rather enigmatic concept to many, so I will try and provide the most simple explanation I can -
With talking therapies, you are offered a confidential, non-judgemental, empathetic space which you can use to explore your thoughts and feelings regarding yourself, others, or situations that you have found yourself in. This allows you to draw your own conclusions about your situation, and helps you figure out possible resolutions to these issues.
While a therapist may sometimes offer their interpretation of what might be going on, person-centred therapists hold the belief that you are the expert on yourself and each individual has the ability to help themselves when given the ideal conditions to do so. It is down to the individual accessing therapy to determine for themselves whether an interpretation rings true and to make choices for themselves accordingly. This differs from advice-giving, which is not something that I offer.
Although the therapeutic relationship is underpinned with psychological theory, contracted for, and given explicit boundaries, you could almost liken it to two friends having a conversation: one friend speaking about a problem while the other listens and helps them explore what is going on for them.
People come to therapy for all different kinds of reasons. Sometimes these are very specific, such as when a person is experiencing a bereavement or a period of extreme anxiety caused by a trauma (for example), while others attend simply because they need someone to talk to about general issues in their life that are frustrating them. There is no right or wrong reason to attend therapy, although it should be a choice that you, ultimately, make for yourself; even if the suggestion has come from someone else.
Counselling can be either a short-term (usually when it is goal-oriented) or longer term process. Counselling sessions are weekly, and held at the same time and on the same day each week.
Within the world of counselling there are a multitude of disciplines and theoretical approaches to psychology; however, the 'big three' are humanistic, cognitive, and psychodynamic.
Humanistic (or person-centred) counselling takes the position of assuming that everyone is the expert on themselves and that everyone has the capacity to heal themselves when given the right conditions in which to do so. Cognitive therapy takes the view that sometimes our thinking becomes distorted and this affects both our feelings and behaviours which can cause us a lot of emotional distress. The best known form of cognitive therapy is CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). Lastly, psychodynamic theory takes the view that a lot of emotional distress is caused by things buried in our subconscious, and the goal of this therapy is to bring into our conscious mind what is hidden from us. Psychodynamic theory is often referred to as being a more modern take on Psychoanalysis, developed by Sigmund Freud.
When working with clients, I use a 'blend' of all of these approaches to create a unique, collaborative therapy which is suited to the individual. This blending of approaches has multiple names, depending on the therapist's individual style. The way in which I work is known as 'Pluralistic' - with a person-centred style, although others might use the terms 'Integrative,' or 'Eclectic' to describe themselves.
I do not offer art therapy which is in of itself a specific type of therapy; however, I do sometimes incorporate creative or artistic approaches to therapy where I think they may be of benefit. Where this is the case, I will usually discuss this with you first so that you can understand the purpose of what we are doing and the hopeful benefit to you.
Part of our work might focus on challenging negative behaviours and thought patterns; it might focus on your communication styles and relationships with others; we might also explore the core beliefs that you hold about yourselves and others, and how you might have formed these views and challenge them if they're negatively impacting your life. It is worth noting that some individuals may experience "Eureka!" moments within a few weeks, sometimes this might not happen for months or years - and some individuals never experience a finger-snapping moment at all, but change will be occurring for you even if not in an obvious, conscious way. As Carl Rogers, the forefather of the humanistic approach, once stated "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself, just as I am, then I can change."
If you're interested in accessing therapy with myself, the process couldn't be easier. Use the contact form here to get in touch; you'll be asked to provide a few details about yourself. I will attempt to get back to you within 48 hours (Monday to Friday, not including public holidays or annual leave).
Initially I offer a free, no obligation telephone consultation which will last 15 - 20 minutes, just for first introductions and to see whether or not I can offer what you are looking for. If you are looking for something I clearly cannot offer or a service which I do not provide, I will let you know there and then and can (usually) make some alternative suggestions for you.
If it seems as though we may be able to work together, I will invite you along to an initial in-person session (this can be online if you have accessibility issues) which will last 60 - 90 minutes. In this session, we will do some more extensive introductions, run through the contract, and possibly use some assessment tools if needed. We can talk in more detail about your expectations or concerns, any goals you may have, and we can also discuss any potential risks in the therapy. You'll also be invited to speak about your issues in a little more detail.
At the end of our initial session, we can have a conversation about whether or not we would both be happy to continue working together. If we are happy to continue working together, we can look at signing contracts and organising future sessions. It can take a little time for a therapeutic relationship to develop, so I will initially suggest we attend 6 sessions with a review after this time to assess progress and the relationship and decide together how to move forward.
It sometimes happens that during this initial meeting (or sometimes later on in the relationship) one or both parties feel as though we're not the right match for each other. If this is the case, please do not be embarrassed to say so or be offended if I make the suggestion that another therapist would be better suited to your needs - as this is about ensuring you get the most out of your experience.
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